grief undone



i don’t know


and yet

my insides


are screaming

even my


are screaming


the squirrel 

in me

wants to

take over







a frayed knot



afraid not!


it’s all

i am

at times




abundant silence



there is nothing like it

there are no words

not a whimper

not a whisper


decades of silence

no one knew

it was as though

i had been hit by a truck


immediate alarm

emergency sirens


coursed thru my body

and then the flashes


i didn’t know what i was

seeing, hearing, experiencing







A Force is Born… or, A Box of Saws


i’ve never pondered my conception before this moment, and if it’s true that we pick our parents

my parents had only known each other a very short time. after 10 days, they married, it was a late May wedding at the courthouse. the following April i was born…i came through them. the miracle, the assault, the awakening, the beginning of a rush of life, a stream of growth, pain and challenge.  as i look back, look at, allow a new version, a new vision…i see that it’s time to take off the glasses of horrors and look through the lens of Force.

Me. the Force. i forced my way in and through. i had a voice and i had momentun. i had my father’s heart & eyes & ears. he heard and saw me and was a fan of mine, cultivating where he could, the voice and power of the Force.  at birth, my parents named me and the  force  of a grandmother steps in and declares that my name ought to be and will be Candice WHOOSH. the dog also dies the day i am born—-making way for, Me.

the stage is set and i love to be on it. i am in my glory, on stage i flow, i sing, i am a channel of humor, joy and light. HA- how about that! i can sing and dance and make you laugh. oh , the shows i used to put on, what fun i had flowing and glowing and then i was stopped and i barely made it out alive. it’s only now that i finally have this other view. this look at the real me, not just the pained me.

so, i was stopped- forced to retreat, feel insane, to detach, to dissociate….for survival.   this became my breath….3 years of torture alters breath- and i never said a word.   never.      

i silently lived in terror, desperation and constant upheaval. to keep my breath, to keep breathing the same air inside my matchbox-over & over. i didn’t know.

i’m only now getting  fresh air at 43. thank  god and all that has served to wake me up…i am so truly grateful.

creating this constant regurgitation has been exhausting, beyond stale is the air.

and somehow a boy, a son, a wonder has grown in this environment of mine that has been so stifled and riddled with constipation.

surely the most glorious and colorful creatures  have grown in, and out of the cracks and crevices of the stoney mountains that we call ourselves.

i grew through the tangle of my parents and the filth they brought to my life.

somehow that seed in me continues to have that urgency, that inclination to break though and force its way through the blockades and avalanches.

no more emergencies, no more stale air. it’s time for wide open spaces…i have a life to create.

beauty that has the force of a freight train behind it

songs to sing and jokes to tell

stories  and tales  to write

dances to create

hands to hold and lips to kiss

air to breathe and diving into water

sunshine to allow in

love to give

friendships to tend


other Forces to mingle with